Family Therapy
Your family needs therapy if ...
- Any members of the family have difficulty getting along.
- Any person in the family feels disrespected and not listened to.
- If grounding and punishments of children have ceased to work (or never did!).
- If any person in the family feels picked on or left out.
- If anyone in the family isolates from the others.
- If the family isn't communicating.
- If alliances have formed against other family members.
- If parents are too lenient or too rigid, or don't know what I mean by that.
- If parents are overprotective.
- If parents aren't encouraging independence for their children.
- If grown parents are still controlling or manipulating their grown adult children.
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Therapy for the Family
Here's the equation:
YOUR family in a relaxing atmosphere
+ a caring and compassionate therapist
= understanding, empathy, change, growth & healing.
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Why Family Therapy?
Because
it's not what you think ... and it works.
by Becky
Whetstone
Family therapy is one of the most amazing
experiences I have had the opportunity to take part in. I usually see
families full of good intentions who somehow have tilted out of balance.
The "out of balance" part shows up in how the relationships stop
working ... you know, there is plenty of disrespect, anger, sadness,
frustration, confrontations, shutting down ... and most likely
family members feel they've gotten themselves in a rut and they can't
get out.
Working with families, we will see a lot of blame. Family
members may point the finger at one person or another, but typically
each person unwittingly plays a role in keeping the family system stuck.
It's
my job to listen to each person and figure out what's going on. Then I
help the family gain insight
into the patterns of behavior that are bringing them down. Imagine
doing this with no
blaming, judgment, criticism, attacks or finger pointing – I'm much more
interested in understanding how your family works using curiosity,
compassion and
insight.
What I love about family therapy is how quickly change
can occur. What is interesting is that I am keenly aware that most
family members would rather be anywhere else than in a family
therapist's
office, and if you come to my office don't be surprised if I point that
out. Of course I know that root canals sometimes sound more
appealing than going to a family therapy session.
I see all
sorts of families -- single parents;
traditional families with mom, dad, and children; older parents and
their grown children – whatever configuration of a family you can
imagine, and it usually ends up that one person wants to be
there more than the other(s). The ones who don't want to be there
probably have no faith or trust in the family therapy process
whatsoever, they think: "How can talking to someone help?" Teens
sick of not being heard have concluded the situation is hopeless and
do not want to take part in one more exercise of being told what they
do wrong and how they fail to meet expectations. Adults fearing attacks
and blame arrive with skepticism and walls erected. BUT, what gives me
more
pleasure than anything is to show each person that their preconceived
ideas about what was going to take place are usually not accurate. Think
about it ... how could we possibly grow and change if we continued
doing things
the same way they've always been done? In my office each person will
find that judgment is suspended and compassionate listening and
understanding is the way that it is. I am interested in what everyone
has to say and every person's perspective is equally important.
What
happens
in this type of listening and understanding environment is that walls
come down and caring and compassion enter the room. Nothing is more
satisfying than seeing a family start enjoying one another once again.
Imagine seeing a teen or other family member who had been operating in
the "shut off" position actually looking forward to the next time we all
meet. Why? Because each person gets listened to and respected, not just
by me but
by the entire family.
If your family is struggling with
communication and understanding issues, then you would probably benefit
from family therapy. Imagine the stress and walls being removed from
your home atmosphere and being replaced by respect, love, and caring –
There's nothing like it! If you have questions regarding the process,
please email me at becky@doctorbecky.com
and I'll be happy to visit with you about it. Change IS easier than you
think!
Copyright 2010 www.doctorbecky.com
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